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  • “Michele Shilvock has been a part of our autism journey, and our family, for more than 16 years. She came into our lives when our daughter was just 3.5 years old and has seen us through all the major milestones—preschool, the elementary and high school years (and every IEP), getting her first job, and her first 2 years of university. Our daughter is now 20 years old, and living away at school, and when she needs advice or support, she still reaches out to Michele.”

  • Michele Shilvock is extraordinary! She is an expert in the field of Autism with an innate sense of understanding the unique abilities of each child she works with. Michele will develop individualized programs to meet the specific needs of each child to help them succeed as well as programs based on parents and siblings needs to support the family.

    Michele began working with our son 11 years ago when he was diagnosed at the age of two. From the moment she walked in our door we knew we were in excellent hands. She not only works with our son but our whole family. We are a team! Michele comes with knowledge, instinct, innovation, compassion, support, patience and time. She is the full package. We have always felt that we were working together for the benefit of our son and our family. We shared the joy during success and progression and work together when challenges arise.

    Michele undoubtedly saved our son’s life and our family. We are so thankful.
    With Michele Shilvock as your guide through the world of Autism, you will be on the right path!

  • Michele has worked with our family for over 6 years, right from the time our oldest was diagnosed with asd. She has offered guidance and support for our son with autism both at home and in the school setting as well as providing parent coaching with our two younger children. Michele has always been professional, dependable and most of all honest with us every step of the way. She has been a great advocate for our son at school, always keeping on top of daily data and checking in with the team when needed. She has provided tools and techniques for my younger son to use in understanding his brother as well as challenging situations at school or with peers. Michele has a true passion for children and her experience shows in every interaction. We would, and have recommended Michele several times to other families, we are very grateful for her services with our family!

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Response to behaviour /// A reminder today that h Response to behaviour ///

A reminder today that how you respond to a child’s behaviour will and should vary. Some will seek you to validate their emotions while others will see the label as a further trigger.  Some will want you close and some will want space. 

It’s why it can help to reach out for support when navigating those hard moments just gets too hard. 

💫Research tells us so much about child development, brain science and the human behaviour. It helps us understand how to breakdown those difficult moments and find what will work best for your child. A good support team should include someone who understands the science but also someone who will respect that YOU know your child best! 

✨ Don’t hesitate to reach out if you have further questions. 

#momsofinstagram #momssupportingmoms #neurodiversity #adhd #asd #parenting #parenttips #parentlife #parentchildrelationship
Behaviours and Connection ///
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If you been here for a while now then you know how much I value the importance of adults and children having strong connections in addressing complex behaviours in school and home, but there is more to supporting children and complex behaviours. 
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You see I have met some of the most incredible parents and educators over the years and their connection to the children in their lives is strong, what’s missing is a deep rooted understanding for the behaviour itself. I’m not talking about are they doing it to escape something or get attention  I’m talking about  understanding why they wanting to get out of something g or get something. 
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✨ this is post is for all those incredible people showing up every day for the children in theirs lives. The people wanting the best but meeting challenges and working through them. 😊Be sure to save this for when you might need it or share with someone who might need it.

#parenting #educating #educators #parenthood #parenttips #adhd #asd  #neurodiversity #childhoodtrauma #childrenwellness  #southrockmoms #momssupportingmoms
Smelling The Roses /// ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Smelling The Roses ///
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I've always wondered about this expression.  Stop and appreciate things around you, be mindful about the small things, find something positive.  I do still believe in these, but the reality of parenting is that there may be days that finding the silver lining is hard, anchoring into a moment of positive is not easy.  And I'm here to tell you that is ok. 
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Parenting isn't always easy and that is because you and your children are forever evolving, growing and changing.
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✨share this with a parent who might need it today or save it for when you need it ❤️😊

#realparenting #parentlife #momsofinstagram #momssupportingmoms #southrockmoms #parentmoments #parentcoach #mindfulparenting #mindfulmama
Boundary Setting with Kids ///
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The discussion this week continues.  I wanted to breakdown what boundaries actually sound like and look like when you are setting them with kids.
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Remember boundaries does not mean a dictatorship.  Children do respond best when give some control (choice)in situations and when there is space for collaboration (not negotiation). The key is to offer these things and layout the boundaries when you can prior to the behaviours and then keeping language consistent and clear in reinforcing those boundaries should those challenging / complex moments bubble to the surface.

✨Be sure to save this one when you need it. 

#parenting  #momssupportingmoms #momsofinstagram #consciousparenting #positiveparenting #parents #adhd #neurodiversity #consistencymatters #parentingtips #parentsupport
Mother's Day /// ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ To al Mother's Day ///
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To all the women out there.  Those who have or mothered, are mothering, long to mother, mothered and lost, have lost someone who was a mother to them or  somewhere in between in your journey. 
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May this day bring you what you seek and may you find some calm before the chaos resumes.  Your early mornings to get lunches made, late nights picking up lego pieces and days where you don’t seem to get that moment of silence or hot coffee/tea - you are noticed for all you do ❤️. 
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Happy Mother’s Day ✨
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#mothersday #mamassupportingmamas
Teacher Appreciation Week ///
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Yep there is a week dedicated to the reminder that WE see and appreciate all the amazing and incredible educators out there. 
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Yes the ones who do so much more than simply teach kids.  They:
🍎Show up early to open a space for kids who need it
🍎They stay late after school to connect
🍎They stay up late after their house is asleep to prep
🍎They collaborate 
🍎They listen and are patient 
🍎 They console and support 
🍎 They recognize the diverse needs of their class
🍎They take the time to CONNECT before they DIRECT
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These are not actions we all see, but they are actions the students experience.  Thank you teachers and education teams for all you do to show up each and every day. ❤️
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⬇️ let’s give some 👏🏼👏🏼 for all the educators out there

#teacherappreciationweek #educatorappreciation #teachersofinstagram #teachersrock #educators #teachingkids
What is at the foundation of your parenting BRIDGE What is at the foundation of your parenting BRIDGE ///
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I have begun talking more about the idea of a bridge, how it connects two sides, or in the case of parenting how it can help connect a parent and child. 
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Parenting is not intended to be a smooth linear path and there is no handbook for it and every day you are supporting the ever evolving, growing and developing minds of children, which means changes are inevitable. 
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While there may be missteps and detours along the path of parenting bridge, keeping a strong and interacted BRIDGE is all about securing the foundation of it.  So in this case YOU the parent/caregiver -- you are the foundation to the bridge. 
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When you are depleted, dysregulated and your cup is empty, the bridge can stay intact, as long as you are doing what is needed for you! 
* taking a pause if needed when your chid is dysregulated to help regulate yourself
* acknowledging and apologizing to your child if you mis-step (and we all do)
* Avoiding the mom shame trap -- you are doing the very best you can each and every day!
* Identifying what you need to fill your cup even the slightest.
* Surround yourself with people who support you in your parenting journey
* Don’t be afraid to reach out for help from professionals 
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You see keeping a strong foundation in parenting isn't about having all the answers or getting all right, instead it's about giving yourself grace each and every day to celebrate the wins and not beat yourself for the detours.  That is what makes a strong foundation to your bridge - your connection to your child.

✨be sure to share this a parent who might need this reminder today 😊

#parenting #buildingbridges #positiveparenting #parentlife #parentnetwork #southrockmoms #momssupportingmoms #momhood #parentcoach #parentsupport #mentalhealthawareness #parentmentalhealth #mothersday #connections #parentsbelike #parentproblems #raisingkids
Words matter with kids/// ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Words matter with kids///
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Have you ever kept count of the number of no's vs yes's you use with your kids.  In any given day are they hearing you say "yes" more than "no" or vice versa. 
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This is a valuable question to ask yourself in understanding some of the push back you might be experiencing from your child.
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The goal is for children to be hearing more positive than negative in their day and if you are finding the no far outweighs the yes then it may be a good time to review why and see where you can make subtle shifts.
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That doesn't not mean you abandon boundaries,  they are are important element to successful parenting, but rather that you consider are you telling your child "no" "not right now" more often then you are saying "sure" "yes." 
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Give a 👏🏼 below if this resonates with you. 

#parentlife #parenttips #parentsupport #parentcoach #momssupportingmoms #southrockmoms #behavioursupport #positivemindset #positiveparenting
Q&A /// Increase the listening
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👋 Hi, I'm Michele, the person behind this account and thrilled to have you join as I provide tips and strategies rooted in science that bridges your understanding and connection with a child's needs and brings you from chaos back to the calm in your space. As a mom and behaviour analyst I appreciate the many challenges faced by parents and education teams daily and the benefit the right strategies can have.
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💡Leaving - give kids a warning and look to use visual timers to help kids know when. transition is coming. 
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💡Parents often ask how to reduce their stress responses when their kids aren't listening.  Here are are just a few tips and considerations you might want to try to bring increased calm when you are making requests.
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💡Meal time - establish some clear expectations and be consistent about what meal time looks like.  Have them join for the prep of the routine (meal prep, table setting, etc...)
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💡Clean up toys - establish some expectations early on and be consistent.  If they want to move on have them tidy along the way or help them at the end of play to sort and tidy, modelling can go along way when a child feels overwhelmed at a room messy with fun.
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💡Bed time tip -- have your child pick a favourite book earlier in the evening to increase their desire to transition or if they are younger even look to make the transition to the room a game.
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⬇️ be sure to share your go to strategy below.

#parenttips #parentlife #momssupportingmoms #momlife #momsofinstagram #behavioranalyst #bcba #parentsupport #parentcoach #positiveparenting #preventiontips
Building communication /// We strive to connect, Building communication ///

We strive to connect, we want to know but often parents share how hard it is for them to get the details. How talking with their kids seems more like talking to and the positive connection is lost behind “nothing”and “I don’t knows” and slammed doors. 

While communication with children is a process and evolves constantly as kids do, there are things you can do to help open communication and have be more about with vs at 

💫 Be sure to share this with someone who may be having a hard time talking with their child right now. 

#parentlife #parentingconnection #positiveparenting #parentingsolutions #momsofinstagram #momssupportingmoms #southrockmoms #communicationwithkids #parentingtips101
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