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Children are not master manipulators/// This PSA

Children are not master manipulators///

This PSA is a reminder to avoid labelling what a child does as a form of manipulation. They are children and not fully capable of that level of responding. And when adults label them as such they tend to respond to big behaviours differently then they would if they looked at a child as being in distress.

Children repeat things because they meet. Need and may have been reinforced previously. Not because they have a master plan.

#supportingchildren #education #educatingkids #parentcoach #educationconsultant #complexbehavioursupport #childrenarechildren

Holiday Traditions/// A reminder that we can have

Holiday Traditions///

A reminder that we can have different traditions and do different things in our home and all still be great parents. Whether you elf or not, have a real or fake tree, have candles lit, or decorate a lot or a little.

💫If it works for you… keep doing it 😉. Let’s support and not judge other parents for how they travel the holiday season.

#parentingovertheholidays #parentlife #parentcoach #southrockmoms #vancouvermoms #bcmoms #momssupportingmoms #parentssupportingparents #happyholidays

Behaviour /// Often the focus is on addressing wh

Behaviour ///

Often the focus is on addressing what you see vs digging deeper to understand first why a child is doing what they are doing.

Children aren’t their behaviours. Behaviours are an expression of what they need in a given moment Whether that’s a break, to move, a pause, a hug and generally an understanding.

💫I encourage you to slow down before you jump in with assumption the next time you see a child experiencing a complex behaviour moment

#understandingkids #supportingkids #lifewithkids #parentingtips #parentcoach #supportingeducators #teachingkids #neurodiversity #vancouvermoms #momsofbc #canadianmoms #momseverywhere #southrockmoms

Setting boundaries around challenging behaviours /

Setting boundaries around challenging behaviours ///

Setting boundaries is a key strategy to parenting all children. Even when they don’t show it or ask in a traditional way, children are wanting boundaries.

What does boundary setting mean? It means:
➡️ You set boundaries you can hold. You are consistent with them.
➡️ You frontload when your child is calm and engaged. You talk about boundaries.
➡️ You keep fewer to start and focus on the ones that you can keep time after time.

💫let me know if you have any questions.

#parentingtips #parentcoach #settingboundaries #supportingkids #neurodivergent #adhd #autism #behaviouranalyst #southrockmoms #vancouvermoms #momssupportingmoms #whiterockmoms

One of the best tips for big people/// 💫 Model

One of the best tips for big people///

💫 Model repair when you misstep. Don’t gloss over it, justify it or beat yourself up for it later. Instead show a child you acknowledge the misstep and how to repair.

👏🏼 Does this resonate for you ?

#parentlife #parenttips #parentcoach #helpingkids #supportingkids #teachingkids #emotionalregulation #bigfeelings #privatethoughts #parenthacks #southrockmoms #vancouvermoms

Teaching children/// When we are teaching childre

Teaching children///

When we are teaching children a out regulation don’t forget to teach them that dysregulation will happen, but that they can come back from it.
💫 It’s not just about modelling the desired way, it’s about modelling what to do when big reaction happens.

#teachingkids #regulation #coregulation #parentcoach #parentingtips #parenting101
#teachertips #weareallhuman #southrockmoms

Helping kids/// It’s not always as simple as im

Helping kids///

It’s not always as simple as implement, especially as children get older and when the strategy is intended to support their neurodiversity.

✨ Start by explaining, when kids understand why they are more likely to try the strategy or tell you why they don’t think it will work for them 😉

#neurodiversity #parentcoach #parentlifebelike #parentingtips #behaviouranalyst #southrockmoms #teachingkids #supportingneurodiversekids #parentingwithscience #educators

Motivation /// You might hear a lot of different

Motivation ///

You might hear a lot of different messages out there about how using external forms of reinforcement can harm children. But this is simply not the case. Yes the goal is for children to do things because internal value is present but what years and years of research and 25 year of clinical experience have shown me is that when reinforcement is used correctly and there is a plan for how to use and how to fade it out it can truly help children.

✨ so let’s stop shaking parents and educators who use it and instead let’s support each other to use it well.

#sciencebacked #behaviouranalysis #parentcoach #parentsupport #neurodivergentlearners #neurodivergent #autism #adhd #kidscanlearn #reinforcement #motivation

Collaboration before assumption ///

Collaboration before assumption ///

This is a reminder that when big people are quick to use words like "manipulative, calculated, too smart, etc..." in response to how a child reacts to their ideal solution, YOU close the door to collaborative based problem solving.

Yes with children we may want one way and they want another, BUT most often, somewhere in the middle there is a place you can both agree on.

So today my ask... take a pause and make room for compromise when you see distressed responding rising.

#parenting #educating #educatingkids #childhoodbehaviour #supportingchildren #parentcoach #educators #behaviouranalyst #kidscanlearn #childhoodmentalhealth #momshelpingmoms #southrockmoms #educationconsultant

Where to put your effort in IEPs /// Often so muc

Where to put your effort in IEPs ///

Often so much time is spent on the wording of a school goal and don’t get me wrong this important.
But more important is supporting an immediate need that strengthens a child’s mental health.

✨. Strategies and accommodations are just if not more important.

#IEP #schoolgoals #educators #schoolplanning #teachingkids #kidsmentalhealth #bcba #behaviouranalysis #parentcoach #momssupportmoms #educationgkids #childhoodmentalhealth

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